Entscheidungshilfe & Akzeptanz von Situationen
Decision support & acceptance - do you have a hard time making decisions?
What type of personality are you? For me, letting go and accepting situations was once difficult because I preferred to act rather than wait and allow situations to take their course. I always felt I had to act. To change situations that made me uncomfortable. Even if it would have been best not to act. Do you feel the same way about this?
Each of us is helped by a variety of tips and methods. The first question you can ask yourself is: Can I do anything about this?
- You are dissatisfied?
- Can you do anything about it? / Do you need to change something about this?
- Yes? Then do it.
- No? Then ask yourself why you can't / don't have to change anything.
- What option do you have?
In the case of a no, you could, for example, try to accept the experience or situation and thus let it go. If you can't live with it, you can possibly get out of the way. Many things in life often work themselves out. Maybe not immediately, but trust! Life takes a lot from you, if you give life the space for it. Learn to grow. Eventually, things that once seemed impossible will become clear.
- How bad is the situation for me now?
- How bad will the situation be in the coming week?
- How bad will the situation be in a month?
You can, of course, set the time periods for yourself. After these three questions, ask yourself one more:
- how do I feel now?
The second method is to shift the focus to the positive. Every situation always brings several aspects. It all depends on what you focus on. For example, ask yourself the following questions:
- What is positive about this situation?
- Why is it good that everything has come to the way it is now?
- If everything in life should have a meaning and reason, where is the meaning/reason or the good behind it?
You will find something good in every situation. Sometimes the search just takes a little longer. Sometimes the meaning of something becomes clear only much later. In the end, situations that we once perceived as very difficult and bad can also mean relief and happiness.
Who makes the decisions in your life?
Our environment has a great influence on our decisions.
If you ever doubt and are not sure if you are strong enough, look back for a moment. Look at all that you have already accomplished. Then no one, not a single person, can convince you that you can't do something. Let other people talk, focus on yourself and your decisions and goals. Act with full commitment and focus.
Stand behind the person you are. Your life should be fun, it should fulfill you and no one else. It is your art, melody and magic. Don't let anyone take it away from you. As long as it makes you happy, it's the right way.
How do you go about making decisions? Do you have your own methods? Do you trust your heart or your head?
The experiences you took with you and the lessons you learned from your decisions are of unimaginable value today. They have made you the person you are today. Here you'll find a fitting excerpt from our "Who Am I" post on letting go and accepting the past and present:
Accept the present. All the decisions you made in the past have led you to the present point. At an earlier time, you had a completely different level of knowledge than you have today. Learn to accept the present. It is a construct of past decisions made based on intuition or reason. Instead of triggering regrets or negative emotions, for example, such experiences can be transformed into huge victories by expanding your consciousness. After all, bad decisions or problems lead to solutions and personal growth.
Whatever you decide today will shape your future tomorrow. Enjoy your everyday life and find the meaning and thereby the motivation to create incredible things! The perfect moment you live today will bring you more perfect moments in the future.
Live in the here and now to build the life you want in the future. Think future-oriented to set sail today. Use your past knowledge and experience to overcome challenges.
Also, your state of mind and stress factor play a significant role in decision making. Decisions are usually better when made with a clear mind. Negative thought processes usually lead to more negative decisions.
Stress can lead to unfavorable decisions because the ability to think can be blocked. Being overwhelmed, pressed, and making quick decisions are often a result of stress. It is important to forgive yourself for bad decisions. After all, these decisions were made out of circumstances. If we always knew where a decision could take us, life would be predictable. We cannot look into the future and blame ourselves for the past decision.
To get clarity on the situation, a pros and cons list can assist as a tool. You record the individual points on your list. The most important ones can be marked additionally. You should look for neutral points for both sides. Otherwise you have already made a decision, even if unconsciously. However, the list can also show you how you feel about the decision. In this case, at least I prefer the gut feeling.
Your team from Rising Life Books