Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts
The view on situations
feelings, people, but also on our own reaction can be perceived differently by everyone. Especially by ourselves. So it is often possible that different world views lead to interpersonal tensions. Because each of us has a different perception for positive and negative experiences.
Many situations we face seem bad to us at first. Worse than they probably are. Many of these situations and experiences are also overwhelming. But if you look back at the situation that cost you a lot of energy, you can see if it was really as bad as you thought.
Where there is light, there is darkness. Where there is lightness, there is also difficulty. The one does not exist without the other. Thus there is always an opposite pole. The life flows. At every end there is a new beginning as well as every new beginning finds an end. It flows like the sea and its currents. Like the rivers, so the course of life. To be allowed to face both opposite poles of life is one of the experiences that teach us the most. It is a constant process. A process of new beginnings, but also of endings. Again and again anew. Life flows and you can flow with it or swim against it. But which way is the easier way? The answer is seemingly simple. But which way do we mostly choose in life?
It is the same with our experiences. All that we look at from our own eyes, hear with our own ears, we evaluate with our view on life. For some, experiences that seem to be bad for the other, are solved with ease. But so is the other way around.
The positive and negative experiences are part of our development
This makes it all the more important to deal with them. Reflection is an integral part of this development. Would you stumble over the same stone day after day that has been lying on your doorstep for years? Probably not. You would rather push it aside or avoid it the next time. Perhaps you would also find something positive in it. For example, that it has made you more aware of your surroundings. But why do we always stumble over the same "stones" in everyday life?
We simply ignore them. We don't deal with them. Accept a lot of things and just go on. Even though we get upset about the same things every day, it occurs to few to take action. But in addition to reflection, which is critically important, one's mindset should not be underestimated. It can be conditioned to learn from everything. Always take away experiences, handle situations better or change the whole view on experiences.
Reflection is the component of personal development that no one can take away from you. Just like the other components. Hints, support and tips are important and good. But in the end, you are the person who has to deal with your experiences. After a short time you will notice in which direction your thoughts intuitively and automatically wander. On which pole your focus lies. One does not exist without the other. So get the following in your mind: As sweet as this life tastes, once you know how sour it can also taste, you will learn to appreciate, enjoy and protect the sweet taste of life. But also find something in the sour taste that will help you on your journey.
As an example, here is one way you can view the separation of your parents, if necessary, depending on your own situation:
The course of life has separated the paths of the parents, but also made your own bond with one of the parents more difficult. Life feels too powerful. Unfair. Like a mountain that stands so huge and steep, as if you can't climb it. You live with pain and grief. Many emotions and thoughts. But what gives you this aggravation?
- Courage - Because in you lies a power that makes you unstoppable when it is first released. It takes away your fear. It lets you experience new things that strengthen you. Courage is one of the first steps to a balanced life. Coupled with brains and intuition, you take the path that is right for you. It's okay to take a step back, to stop. But in the end, the paths only lead in one direction. The question is where you want to be.
- Self-reliance - Of course it's nice to be able to rely on people. But no one can be relied on as much when it comes to you as yourself. Once people are missing, you may feel overwhelmed. As a result, you take action yourself. It's hard at first. Learn to deal with situations and make new experiences. With every situation won and lost, a short part of the learning process comes full circle. A learning process that does not stop until the end of life.
- Perseverance - Those who always live in their comfort zone quickly become stressed or annoyed by new influences. But the person who learns to deal with ups and downs develops a stamina with which even the highest mountain can be climbed. The important thing here is not to be crushed by failures. No, instead, to stand on your feet again with every fall. To move forward. Not to lose courage. Because if you stop first, you will not advance in life. So ask yourself again where you want life to take you. If you have or find something in life that you want to move forward for, you will develop an inner drive that will move mountains.
- Emotions - They teach you to deal with them. Draw energy from them. For that you have to deal with them. You get to know yourself better. Learn which emotions are strong, which are less so. When you gain control over your emotions, when you don't let yourself be influenced by external influences, when your actions are no longer subject to your emotions, you become more aware of yourself. Don't let them guide you anymore, but take the reins in your own hands. Because every emotion that knocks on your "door" wants to be noticed and loved by you.
Track yourself. What happened to you today and how did you react to it? Can you think of some situations? Were they positive or negative? What does life give you through these experiences?
Or are there situations that are bothering you? Have they been negative experiences? If so, have you learned anything from them? Broaden your view of the big picture. Turn your sole focus away from the negative. Think of the gift in everything.
Let's expand the list again. We start from the same situation as before. Fear is an emotion that can always accompany us through life. It should be received as a welcome challenger rather than an enemy. Because it is a part of you. A part of your subconscious mind that, like the other emotions, has been created by your past experiences.
Depending on the situation, fear may spread within you, as well as others. It spreads in all of us. But...
- The missing love by a single person can increase the existing love for close persons (parent | sibling) immeasurably. Let it become unconditional.
- The absence of one person can make you become a kind of superhero even as a child or parent. For you so far unimaginable and previous limits disappear with time.
- It gives an abundance of actions and decisions. A sense of responsibility to yourself, but also to those close to you.
If you put the same energy you once put into fears into your goals, then no one can stop you. You learn self-reliance, letting go of situations or people, what it can mean to be on the edge, to be there for others, to stick together, and to feel unconditional love for fellow human beings.
Our feelings should not complicate our lives. They are allowed to, can, and do make our lives more precious. Our feelings are so strong that they make us survive everything. Use them properly and don't let experiences bring you down. Get what is rightfully yours. Your happiness.
Your team from Rising Life Books